I’ll preface this blog by saying it was inspired by a conversation I had with my bestie (who is a phenomenal life and career coach might I add) this weekend.
I’ll also add that I haven’t been feeling my best mentally, emotionally, and physically (our bodies are very receptive to our feelings) hence why I had that conversation with my best friend.
Life can be tough and we go through so many ups and downs.
However, I’ve always stated that it’s not what happens to us but how we react to it that determines how we perceive the world.
I’ve been going through some personal stuff lately and my mind has been everywhere but a positive view.
It’s easy to get distracted from the long-term view and get stuck in what’s currently happening.
I’m very aware of the growing pains that come with change – I’ve experienced them before – but lately I let it get to me.
That’s where talking to my best friend became a blessing.
Side note: sorry Nicole, I know literally call you for everything but you always know what to say!
What it means to give up your power
Nicole (also known as my bestie) told me something this weekend that really got me thinking.
Our superpower is that we have the power to be exactly who we want to be.
We get to decide what we do, and if we don’t like it, we can always reinvent ourselves.
We also have the power to feel our feelings and to release what no longer serves us.
The sooner we realize we have the power to be ourselves, the happier we’ll be.
However, a lot of us (myself included) have relinquished that power before.
We’ve let other’s beliefs of us hold some truth and thus we’ve given others power over us.
When we allow someone else’s perception of who we are affect us, our insecurities are heightened and we don’t let ourselves be our best self.
At the same time, when we focus so much on people’s expectations of what we should do, we give up our power.
So don’t let other’s ideas of who you are or how you should be acting control your life.
At the end of the day, you have the power to be who you want to be.
Take back your power
At one point or another we’ve given up our power.
How exactly do we get it back?
Like everything, the first step is admitting the problem.
Realize that you’ve given others the power to control how you see yourself.
Once you’ve realized you’ve given into someone else’s expectations, you can move on and make amends with yourself.
Remind yourself that your superpower is being yourself.
There is no one like you and that’s what makes you special; don’t let others dull that sparkle.
Set intentions for yourself and make sure you stick to them.
For example, if you want to run a marathon but someone in your life has led you to believe you are not capable of running one, let that go!
Realize that you have the power to run that marathon.
Your body is strong, you can train, and you will run that marathon.
Say it out loud, declare it, and go for it.
Slowly but surely you’ll begin to regain your power.
You’re claiming it and putting it back where it belongs – YOU!
So go ahead and live your life how you know best.
Take back the power you’ve given up by letting other’s expectations control your behavior and thoughts.
I believe in you and your ability to accomplish everything you set your mind to.
I also believe you are an amazing person and deserve to shine.